Much has been discussed about the effect that having a child can have on a couple's relationship. And most of it is true.
No more high schoolish games of "try and guess what I need to make me happy," or "I'll act cryptically upset and wait for you to figure out what to do." Melodrama, martyring, and passive aggressive behaviour, not optimal in a childless relationship, have absolutely no place in one with children. Somewhat sadly for the drama addicts, only straightforward honesty will do.
So, if you're feeling that you are doing more than your share, don't withdraw, or act petulant in hopes that your partner will notice. Consider what you will need to make you happy, and tell your partner. "Can you please start washing the dishes more frequently," or, "I'd like it if you not smoke cigars around our infant," or "I would like to attend XXX on XXX date and would love it if you could stay home with junior." If you're upset, or feel overwhelmed, don't lash out indiscriminately. Try and figure out why, and figure out what you need. Not even the best partner can read your mind.
Don't play games or make him guess. Help him help you.
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